Beyond Friendship and Eros: Unrecognized Relationships between Men and WomenSUNY Press, 2001 M07 26 - 128 pages Culminating a twenty-year personal and scholarly quest, the authors explore the phenomenon of loving relationships (minus the sexual attraction) between men and women. They articulate these relationships as dialogical love in which partners respond to each other s presence personally rather than categorically as friend or lover. In a society where relationships of dialogical love are neither articulated and named nor recognized as acceptable ways of being, they are usually mistaken as affairs or regarded as just friend relationships. Since these relationships are spontaneous, free, and open, their meaning is disclosed through examples rather than by traditional definition. Throughout the book, the authors share their own personal relationship, similar relationships of those they interviewed, and relationships from literature and popular movies. Further illuminating interpretations of friendship and love are excerpts from C. S. Lewis, Rollo May, Caroline Simon, and Robert Solomon. Personal relationships are explicated by the work of Martin Buber, John Macmurray, and Alfred Schutz. |
Contents
Why Another Interpretation of Love? | 1 |
Abundant Being and Societal Tensions | 9 |
Dialogical Love and Abundant Being | 10 |
Societal Restraint and Misdirection | 18 |
Struggling with Cultural Misdirection | 24 |
Must Sex Inhibit Friendship? | 31 |
Dialogical Love Friends or Lovers | 35 |
Lewis on the Transformation of Sex by Eros | 37 |
Solomon on the Complementary Relationship of Friendship and Love | 56 |
Plato and Aristotle on Friendship | 60 |
Reaching for Dialogical Love | 69 |
Emersons Rejection of Fullers Invitation to Dialogical Love | 77 |
Mill and Taylors Reaching for Dialogical Love and Finding Feminism | 83 |
IThou Personal and WeRelationships | 91 |
Buber | 94 |
Macmurray | 99 |
May on How Sex Is Transformed by Eros | 41 |
Lewis on Friendship and Eros | 44 |
May on Friendship and Eros | 46 |
Friendship between Men and Women | 49 |
Simon on Intergender Friendship | 50 |
Schutz | 105 |
Why Dialogical Love? | 111 |
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Beyond Friendship and Eros: Unrecognized Relationships Between Men and Women John R. Scudder Jr.,Anne H. Bishop No preview available - 2001 |
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