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Vice, and Disobedience, in Pride, Lying, Luft, Idleness, or keeping ill Company, at the Peril of their own Souls and Bodies; that may imprint upon their pliant Hearts, a becoming Modesty, and Humiliation of Spirit, which is the only Prefervative againft such juvenile Contagions, or Corruptions
of Virtue : 4thly, By infosing into their Virgin-minds, the purest Precepts of Prudence and Piety, how to avoid Luxury, Delia Cateness, or Superfinity in Expences; ill Language, moral Furpitude, or Propbaneness in Discourse ; and uncivil Choler, unmannerly Paffion, or Impatience in Conversation, whereby their Beha. viour may be deem'd not only dishonest, and disagreeable, but also disingenyous and dishonourable, according to the Rules of good Breeding: Sthly, By setting before their Eyes the good and bad Examples, of Virtue and Vice, in reading true Hiftories, that they may learn how to follow the Former, and forsake the Latter, for their own Welfare, Prosperity, or Preservation; as the old Romans us’d. to sing the famous Exploits of their Ancestors at Feests, for the better Imitation of their Youth : And, Laft. ly, by informing their youthful Understandings, in giving them the best Lessons of Industry, DifGretion and Frugality, how their Bodies were naturally form’dtor Labour, as well as fram'd for Pleasure ; that they may thereby, willingly undertake some profitable Employment, of getting an honest Livelihood, and making their own regular Lives happy to Posterity. Admonition, in like Manner, is as indispensably necessary, for the better Institution of Youth. Touth is active, vehement, and vigorous; but very apt to stum, ble at the Threshold of Virtue, for Want of good Advice. They are giddy-brain d and for,
getful, and must be often told of their Duty. Their Memories are treacherous, and have the greatest Need of Repetitions. The glorious Steps of their predeceffors should be throughly inculcáted, to make them tread in their Paths. Promises are likewife proper Motives, for the Ap. plication of their minds to Learning. They are The most powerful, and perfwasive Arguments to Goodness. Nothing draws Touth more to the Study of Glory, than Commendation. The Bible abounds with such Encouragements of Wifdom, and Well-doing. God Himself promises eternal Life and Happiness, for the Reward of their Perseverance in Justice, Uprightness, and Integrity. Horace presses a young Man to go on with Joy whither Virtue leads the Van, and he shall reap the great Advantage of his industrious Deferts. Plautus also ftipulates the fame extraordinary Récompence of his Labour, and Lucubrations. Praises, and Threatnings alfo, in fine, are to be discreetly made Use of in the Education of Children, either as a Terrour to Evil, or a Titillation to good works. Children expect to be commended when they do well, as an Encouragement of doing and deferving better. Ovid observes, that Glory gives Vigour to the Mind, and the Love of Praise makes the Heart resolutely ready to undertake Wonders. Quintilian advises, that industrious Touth may be exceedingly praised for their laudable Improvements, and the Slothful, ignominioully difprais’d, for their fordid Negligence or Obstinacy. And if Menaces will not make them amend their Lives, nor Threats induce them to put in Prađice, the good Admonitions ihat are given them; why then good Discipline, discreet Correction, or feverer Chastisement,
must be exercis'd, to reform their disingenuous Childhood. To this. Purpose, Plutarch lays down the Hope of Reward, and Fear of Punishment, as the Two great Elements of Honour in their tender Age, and the sure Foundation of future Honesty. This is the best Method Parents can take of making Provision betimes, by a virtuous Education, for the wiser Maintenance of their Pofterity.
I. WELL may the Children of this virtu: ous Wife, therefore, call her Blessed, with mutual Affection, as well as Truth. She is highly blest with such a dutiful Offspring ; and they no less, with so incomparable a Parent. Both are sufficiently happy in the reciprocal Satisfactions of their Love, Tenderness, and Obedience, Their Injoyments are all of a Piece, uninterrupted by any Offence, either justly given, or fairly taken, to disturb their Peace and Complacency. Nothing can interfere, or clash with the Performance of their boupdeņ Duties, and relative Obligations. There are no sinister Pas·sions, or Partialities on the provoke her Children to a pettish Humour, and irritate them to Heart-burnings, or to breed ill Blood in the Family. There are no peevish Mutterings, or Murmurings of Unwillingness on the. Part of the Children in doing their Duty, either to incense their Mother's Anger, ruffle her Repose, or exasperate her Temper. They - contend only, who all deserve the best by their good Offices, in their respective Stations : whether the prudent Mother, by her Love, and Care of her Children ; or the pious Children, by their Honour, and Dutifulness to their Mother; who bare them, and brought them up with so much Grace, Favour, or Indulgence, oịt of natural Gratitude, both for their Birth and their Well-Being.
II. WELL may her Husband also praise her for the best of Conforts; the most affectionate, obedient, and obliging ; free from all wilful Obstinacy, and Stubbornness of Mind; never impatient of her sacred Duty, and folemn 0. bligation : but always submislively acquiescing with his Defires, or Demands, how disagreeable foever to her own Humour; if not repugnant to the positive Commands of God Almighty's diviner Laws. He extols her Fidelity, with the greatest Reason, not only as the most chast, continent, and constant Friend to his Bed, or an utter Enemy to all strange Embraces, and Abandoner of Foreign Views; but also, as the most just, trusty, and ingenuous Manager of his worldly Affairs, or the truest Dealer for his Domestick Advantage; without either misapplying bis Goods to forbidden Uses, or misemploying his Money to unlawful Ends. In short, he applauds her Love, with the greateft Gratitude, for her kind, affable, and courteous Conversation, as well as other good of. fices of Help, Alistance, and Consolation, in all the providential Conditions of humane Life; whether in Health or Sickness, Wealth or Poverty, Possession or Deprivation of Fortune and Estate. Her Affection is nevertheless unlimited ; her Constancy, immutable; and her Loving-kindness, .next to Infinite. Insomuch that no Woman can better deserve the Praises of Matrimony, and the Panegyricks of the Pen, more than she does in the happy State of Wedlock.
DEGENERACY, or ill Manners, cannot be better prevented as a Curse in Families, than by a faithful Performance of parental Ducem ties to Children, in all Points of Affection. The Care of nursing, nourishing, and sustaining their bodies from their Birth, is a natural Obli. gation; as the very Brutes sew, by providing ingenuously for their tender Young, till
they can fhift for themselves securely Abroad. The Care of cultivating their Souls from their Infancy, is of the highest Concern; by bringing them betimes to the blessed Sacrament of Salvation, for fear of their dying suddenly, and losing the Bepefit, either of publick or private Baptism: c. specially, considering their Breaths are gone in a Moment; and their Lives so precarious at their Births, as not to be, almost as soon as they are born. The Gare of instructing their Minds, and educating their persons from their Childhood, is a sacred Injun&ion; by seasoning their younger Years with found Principles of Religion, and folid Arguments of Virtue: for they are like nem Veffels, that long retain the Scent, and Savour of the generous Liquor they first imbibed with Nature, as true as the Pøet, or the Proverb af. firms it ; and Goodness that is bred in the Bone, will never become a Vice in the Flesh. But there are many other particular Duties Parents owe to their growing Children; in the exact Dircharge of which, they may grossly fail, and be egregioufly deficient. Asin tbat of giving suitable Encouragements, and necessary Corrections with Moderation ; not to be too harsh, or Auftere with them; and yet not so gentle or remiss, as to spare the Rod, to the spoiling of the froward Child: That, of watching over their Welfare, when they are grown-up, past the Age of Education, and exhorting them to Perseve. rance, in the Practice of those wholesome Pre